How to Become Confident

Confidence is tricky. It is something that everyone longs for.

Put your thoughts in their place.

It is said that the average human has 65,000 thoughts every day, 85 to 90 percent of them being negative. Examples of things such as worry or fear. They are warnings to oneself and left over from our cave-dwelling past. If one sticks to their hand in a flame, the brain wants to make sure one does not ever do that again. This mechanism that inhibits survival works against individuals, because it causes us to focus on fears rather than hopes or dreams.

The point is to be aware that your brain works this way, and keep that negativity in proportion. What you have to realize is your thoughts are just thoughts, they don’t necessarily represent objective reality.

Begin at the end.

There are so many people that I’ve asked, ‘What do you want to do? What do you want to be?’ and they would say, ‘I don’t know,’ in which I can relate. Knowing what you want is the key. Everything else you do should be leading you where you want to go.

Start with gratitude.

Begin the day by thinking about some of the things you have to be grateful for. Most of the 7 billion people in the world will not have the opportunities you do. If you start out with that perspective, you’ll be in the right frame of mind for the rest of the day.

Take a daily step outside your comfort zone.